Did you make a resolution for 2016?? Nearly everyone does, whether it's to lose weight, workout more, drink less. Everyone has such good intentions on December 31st. When January 1st rolls around, they hit the ground running to meet that resolution. The first day goes by well, maybe even the 2nd day.. On January 3rd, they might slip up to their old ways and they get a bit discouraged. By January 5th, all resolute has gone out the window and things are back to the way they were and you're left feeling like a true failure, telling yourself you can't do anything and that you will always be fat/flabby/weak/ect. Then, when December 31st rolls around, we make those same resolutions again, swearing THIS will be the year it happens, only to have the same thing happen.
Resolution derived from the word resolute, which by it's definition is part of the problem right there.
We cannot expect to be "unwavering" and "determined" all the time. We are human, we make mistakes and we shouldn't beat ourselves up when we do. But for some reason, we do that when it comes to resolutions. We often time feel like a failure, like we can't accomplish what we set out to do so what is the point. And so, I stopped making them altogether.
Instead, I make goals.
Goals are an end result that is obtainable. It doesn't make a difference how you get there or even how long it took you to get there. The point is you work towards meeting that goal and eventually you cross that finish line. You might fall down a few times, you might skin your knees and your palms when you do, but you pic yourself back up and you keep going. You don't focus on the setbacks and the mistakes, you focus on what is at the end waiting.
For 2016, I decided to set seven goals for myself, each with the hopes that by changing my behavior I can become a much more positive person.
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I am a miserable person. I don't know if it's because of living 5 years in this desert, out in the middle of no where, around people who are just as miserable as I am but I find that I have become a very negative, depressed, miserable person. I have very little energy or want to do much of anything. All friends that I had on this base have moved away and I don't have any desire to make new ones. Not that anyone would want to be friends with someone who is as negative as I am. As a result, the only other adult I see each week besides my husband is the UPS man.
I want to change that. So here are my goals for 2016 to work toward in order to change that.
1.) Cut Down on my Spending - One might not think this would impact my negativity. But even thought I get a temporary satisfaction in getting a box from Amazon, we are almost always living paycheck to paycheck. By curbing my spending, that will allow for more money to do other things with, especially family outings.
2. Clean Up My Language - I'm going to make another confession, although this one isn't as hard for
3. Spend More Time With God - I know that much of what I want to correct with myself, I am not going to be able to do alone. I also know that I want to live a life that reflects what Christ taught us to
4. Get Organized - How would getting organized help my negative attitude? Well, clutter and messiness makes you miserable. While my home is not a pigsty with rotten food and garbage everywhere, it is cluttered. We're a family of 5 living in a house built for 4 and as such, there's really no room for everything. It's time for us to start decluttering, deep cleaning and working towards keeping it that way once it's done. A clean, bright environment helps towards having a bright and clean outlook. I want to add more ways to store and organize stuff (beyond just throwing it on bookshelves or on the couch) as well as add houseplants and pretty curtains so I can keep the windows open on sunny days. (I have lived here 5 years and still don't have curtains on the windows!)..
5. Spend More Time With My Family - It's time for me to disconnect. Facebook have become too
6. Communicate More With My Husband More - I addressed this want/need in my Word for 2016 post and it's still a major goal for 2016. But I want this to be positive conversation.
Which leads into goal #7
7. Stop Being So Negative - I tend to use my husband as a sounding board for all the reasons I'm miserable here, telling him about the latest drama going on in the Base facebook groups, or complaining about politics. I want to stop complaining - I want my words to be uplifting and positive. I want my husband to look forward to conversing with me when he gets home from a long day of work, not dread what I'm going to be complaining about as soon as he walks in the door. I want my personality to be bright and cherry, so that people will enjoy my company and seek it out rather than avoid it because I bring them down.
There you have it. My goals for 2016. Sure, I want to lose weight and work out more but you know what? If I can meet the 7 goals that are above, I have a feeling all the other things I wish to do will follow suit in their own time. And I hope that as God helps to make these changes in my life, that that new positive outlook will reflect to this blog as well .